Ah there's nothing like going on vacation and checking out a whole new batch of men.
I arrived in Maui happy and ready for my first meal, Oceanside. I found a cute little restaurant right on the beach and decided to sit at the bar. There were a couple guys there, one from Houston. He was on vacation with his brother and his family. He was handsome maybe 40 - 45. I told him I was there alone and looking forward to doing whatever I want, whenever I wanted.
He asked for my # and called me 4 times the next day. The first 2 were within 10 minutes of each other. He was calling to invite me to the pool at the Westin (it's really nice - I stayed there for a couple nights last time) He called again to say he was leaving, and asked if I wanted a ride over to the Westin.
I texted him back that I was shopping and then gonna chill at my pool, but thanks for the invite and have fun. Flash forward a couple more hours, he calls again and I must be a person who doesn’t return their messages. So this is the last time I will hear from him. Not even 3 hours later he calls again to say he's back at his hotel bar and I should come over he's buying dinner. What a desperate freak! BTW...who doesn't get text messages now days?
I thought about calling him and reminding him that this is my vacation and I don't do anything I don't feel like doing and the full court press complete with an attempt at a guilt trip was the wrong move. But I just ignored him.
I went on a helicopter tour of the rainforests waterfalls and volcano and the pilot was flirting like crazy with me. I got to sit up front with him. After the ride the girls in the tour group were all commenting on how flirty he was with me. Well he asked for my number and when I told him I was checking out the next day he asked if I could extend my stay by a day, because he had to leave for Honolulu that night. When I told him I couldn't he is looking into changing his plans so we can see each other. It didn’t work out but I will take the ego boost. He was yummy and the job made him even hotter.
The last story of Maui Men was with the Pool Boy. This time it really was the guy who cleans the pool at my hotel. I didn’t see him until my last day. He introduced himself to me and took some pictures of me on the beach. I admit I was flattered. He was handsome, but 5 minutes into the conversation, he wants to know what room I am in. Seriously? No way was I telling him that. The flirting was fun but I wasn’t looking to hook up with some guy I had known for 5 minutes. No thank you!
I will post some pictures soon from my vacation.
Update on the guy I met at my pool
In case you missed it before we went on vacation, Chris did a Dating Intervention with me. He says I get asked out all the time and I don’t even go out on any dates. I told him I don’t go out with a guy just to go out. I have to feel like there’s something there.
I will admit it did push me to nail down some plans with Rob. He and I meet at my pool a couple weekends ago he has been texting me, but we hadn’t actually seen each other since.
So he met me out and we had a pretty good time. I am still reserved about it, here’s why…a guy came in the bar and wanted to play the video game so we moved over to give him the game. He played for a while and then only had a 20 so I gave him a couple bucks but he insisted that we all play. However, Rob didn't seem to like it, it took him a while to even start to participate and he seemed like he wanted me all to himself. There's 1 flag, he didn't blow it, but I am storing that info. The guy was not hitting on me and he was trying to involve Rob too. He also didn’t ask about what I do, which I was a little relieved, but in my opinion if a guy doesn’t ask about you, he’s only interested in one thing. I did ask about his job, he swordfights in tournaments! Full on body armor and everything. Tournament season begins soon and he’s been in training.
I did let him kiss me good night and he’s a good kisser.
We have plans to see each other over the long holiday weekend. I will keep you posted.
Bachelor Happy Hour/Casting Call
So I told you I would share them with you. I got to spend more time with my DFW Bachelorette Guys. Brian, Jeremy,Chris & Twilly all joined us for a Happy Hour at the House of Blues that turned into an official Casting for the next season of the Bachelor. So I audtioned and drank and took off and had dinner with Brian and Jeremy. Sara even came by all she had for dinner....a margarita!
Brian tells me all about the charity he's involved with, Roots of Change. This guy has a heart of GOLD. You might want to click on the link, it's hard to hear him in this video, but it's lots of fun to look at him.
My latest breakup
After 3 months and 1 date I have decided to end my relationship with eHarmony. I spent too much time and effort over the last 3 months and I ended up disappointed.
I had so many matches, 291 to be exact; it was hard to keep the matches straight. I was communicating with no more than 30 guys at one time.
I closed a lot of matches and have had a lot of matches closed on me. When you close a match you can give one of many statements as to the reason you are closing the match. I tried to be honest and actually put “I don’t feel the chemistry is there.” Or “I want to pursue other relationships on eHarmony.” But I do admit to coping out and putting “Other’ on a few.
As I said I had a lot of guys close matches on me, but the one reason that made me laugh the most was:
“I think the age difference between us is too great.” He’s 34 I am 35….LOL!
The only thing I learned from eHarmony is that I am not attracted to anyone I am compatible with.
I am back to set ups from friends, looking for local singles events and anywhere else I might meet a man that I feel chemistry with. Wish me luck!
Me & the pool boy......
August 4, 2008
No he doesn’t clean the pool at my apartment; and he's a guy not a boy. Anyway he was just hanging with his friends who live in my complex Friday afternoon.
I didn’t get too much time to talk to him because my friend and I had to go get ready to meet some friends for drinks. He tried to get me to stay and drink with him and his buddies, but I declined his offer, so he asked for my number.
He texted me about an hour later and called me that night, texted me on Saturday and called again on Sunday. I had not responded to any of his calls or texts. I was just really busy and it’s not a good sign that I didn’t feel the urge to call or text him back. I did text him last night and said I’d talk to him this week.
I always say I like to be pursued and it’s true but there’s an art to pursuing, take it too far and it’s just clingy or needy.
I might meet him for coffee, just so I can figure out if he is truly dateable.
My fav DFW Bachelorette guy Brian W. and I have been staying in touch since our big night out with all the boys. I am a little bummed cause we were gonna get together for a couple drinks, but our schedules just didn't line up. He is such a great guy and has a wonderful heart. He’s involved in a really cool charity called Roots of Change. Check it out here.
I think I need to round up Brian, Jeremy, Chris & Twilly so y'all can meet them. I will work on a little get together for us all, and keep you posted.
Brian is also working on an event here in DFW for Graham’s charity; stay tuned for all the details. I will keep you posted on the event and my special involvement ;-) Ladies you are gonna love it!
My night with the men of the Bachelorette
July 21, 2008
Friday I got an amazing surprise. I got an email from my favorite DFW hottie from the Bachelorette Brian W. from Ft. Worth. He invited me to join him and some of the other guys from the show for dinner at Joe T’s in Ft. Worth then we headed over to Aqua Lounge. It was the DFW locals, Brian, Jeremy, Chris & Twilly. Plus Richard A. flew in for the weekend from NYC. BTW….Twilly lives here in Dallas; the show said he was from Tulsa that’s his hometown.
The night was awesome and Brian is even better than I ever could've imagined a real MAN and a gentleman too. He was such a great host coming back and checking in with me every 10 minutes or so. The best part was a got to hug him at least 20 times. And he’s so tall what when I put my arm around him I got to feel his amazing V. Be still my beating heart! Look for more pictures of all of us in the Ft. Worth Star Telegram.
Here’s the inside scoop I learned……
Deanna chose the snowboarder Jesse at the end of the Bachelorette
Apparently, Jesse had a girlfriend and came on the show to promote her line of t-shirts, plus he had an endorsement deal for some brand of shades, he got a grand every time he was seen on the show wearing them.
Once he realized he had a shot, he dumped his girlfriend. That’s why it took him so long to kiss her!
Jeremy has been in talks to be the next Bachelor, but says he’s not sure he’s gonna do it.
I did get a really nice text from Brian Saturday night saying he had a blast with me and wants to stay in touch.
You may have heard us talking about how I joined eHarmony in May. Happily there are lots of matches, I was a little worried ‘cause I know a girl who got no matches….scary! Chemistry is so important to me, I don’t have a type, if you saw all my exes in a lineup none of them look alike. BTW….none have actually been in a line up, at least that I am aware of….LOL. It’s a certain click or vibe that’s there from the moment I met them. I never believed that can truly translate on line. But I am ready for a relationship and want to find a great man so I decided maybe it was time to try something new.
I joined eHarmony because I thought these guys would be looking for relationships and not just random hook ups. I have been working through the guided communication with the matches I thought had potential and sadly found a couple guys that only wanted to message each other and ask every question there was to ask and never make a move to meet. I am not looking for a pen pal I am looking for a man. I actually had one match close me after what felt like a million messages and tons of getting to know you questions. I messaged him that ‘I wanted us to discover things about each other in person rather than know each others whole life stories before we know if there’s an attraction in person.’ He wasn’t ready for that. That’s OK, moving on to the next match.
We’ll I finally found a guy who moved quickly and had some follow through. So we arranged a Happy Hour last week. Overall it was really nice, we hung out for a couple hours and had tons to talk about and we make each other laugh, we found out new things about each other, like he dated one of my co-workers for 2 years and they are still really good friends. Ironic! He walked me to my car and we hugged goodbye. As I am driving home I glance in the mirror and realize that I have this gross white line around the whole inside of my lips....GROSS! I guess my lip gloss had melted and wasn’t working properly. I am not blaming my ‘lip gross don’t’ for no good night kiss. He’s a great guy but there was no sexual chemistry. I could see hanging out with him and tossing back a few for sure, but I need a match that I wanna have crazy hot sex with too.
So I wait for the next meeting and hope for the best. I will keep you posted. In the meantime you can always email me at Mel@movin1075.com
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